The topics of gender identity and sexual preference have come up on my blog a number of times. I have pretty progressive views on these topics as far as the whole spectrum of humanity goes but there are still plenty of things for me to learn. Corporate Plunderer (CP) has been a regular commenter on these sorts of posts, regularly pointing out my lapses in sensitivity and knowledge. I found this tendency ... a little odd. When I knew CP back in my university days CP was a relatively typical white heterosexual male born into relative privilege... completely nutty, as many of my friends were, but that was par for the course. I assume they thought of me in the same way, lovingly I hope.
My last real post had a long discussion in the comments about the necessity of entering one's gender into Google+ and the fact that this was a public rather than optional or private. I filled out the profile with "M" without any reservation since by any way of reckoning that I am aware of I am male. It was brought to my attention though that a lot of people have an issue with this and I can very easily see why. As long as suitable other options exist (other/choose not to say/etc.) I have no problem with a gender field but opting out should be possible - there are plenty of people like me that have no issues with full public disclosure but that isn't true universally. In one of the responses I talked about how both CP and myself have had it easy in terms of gender and sexual identity and got a "0_o" response and a link.
I looked at this link and the title of the website and my brain began to churn. After some intense Facebook perusal I discovered that in fact CP is transgender and has been out in public for months while I remained happily oblivious. So much for her having it easy being born a hetero male! Clearly I needed to respond in some fashion so I composed an apologetic email detailing that I was entirely unaware of the situation and expressing all appropriate support and acceptance. The response went along the lines of "It was obvious you were clueless for months and I have been laughing my ass off waiting for you to figure it out." So first I was clueless and when I finished doing that I was busy getting trolled.
"Ha ha, fooled you, I'm a girl! Pranked!"
Hrmph. If I had a dime for every time that has happened...
My relationship with CP hasn't exactly had a gender component up to this point so clearly there is no reason to imagine it would change. If CP had actually been nursing some kind of private grudge about "Why is Sky acting this way, doesn't he *know*? What a jackass!" I would have been pretty disappointed but I was very amused by the pranking. So do I succumb to temptation and ask my friends to find out if they were all as uninformed as me?