This past Saturday I had a nerd games party at my place. Wendy and Elli were up north at a Brownie camp for the weekend so it was time for some crazy non-kid-interrupted gaming. I did my usual thing of inviting people in waves - how many people are in later waves depends on how many people say they are in from earlier waves. In theory this allows me to make sure I have enough people attending but not too many people attending. I seem to have something like a 30% acceptance rate to party invites but unfortunately that does mean that sometimes I invite ten people and get nine who show and sometimes I get one. Neither is really what I am looking for!
After three waves of invites I ended up in the situation where I had two people confirmed showing up for a couple hours and one person probably showing up for a couple hours with no overlap between them. Unfortunately very few people responded at all so I couldn't realistically reschedule since presumably some folks might be planning on coming without my knowledge. This is not a recipe for a successful party! I was pretty bummed out at that point because I only have so many weekends I can host these sorts of things and to have invited ~18 people and to have no real party come together was not so much fun. I ended up being pretty maudlin and irrational internally, letting my brain wonder if I have done something to really offend a whole bunch of people.
Things worked out really well though. I ended up with eight people staggered somewhat over the course of the day which worked out just fine. I got to play my much beloved Puerto Rico and CRUSHED a world champion by a *massive* two point margin. *Massive* Winning a really tight game of Puerto Rico is one of the sure fire ways to pick up my mood and it has the advantage that no nudity is required. What I want to avoid is the organization struggle of having a party where I really have no idea who is going to show up. Obviously my strategy of waves of invites really doesn't work unless I get reasonably quick responses both Yes and No so I need to figure something else out. I guess I need to default to 'invite a bunch of people and hope'. This works better in a space where I can actually host a lot of people if that is what shows up - one more reason to buy a house someday I suppose. That is, unless anybody out there has a good idea for how to get around this particular challenge.