The reason my last post was a stub offering a free boxspring is that we have finally found a longterm solution to Elli's room being a disaster. She has long wanted a bunkbed so we decided to use it as a bribe to get her to clean up some. 4.5 hours of cleaning later we gave four bags of toys to a local childcare and put six small garbage bags of junk down the chute. Then she got her reward: A bunkbed from IKEA with a ton of storage underneath and a nice desk space.
We went to IKEA to see their other offerings but she was having *nothing* to do with them. This one has pink drawers, see, and that is a feature that cannot be matched. It is an odd thing for both Wendy and I because both of us seem to actively chafe under gender roles and norms and yet Elli is absolutely enraptured with doing all the girly things.
And that is great! I am glad she feels happy in doing those things and happy in being a girl.
It isn't that I object to her acting girly, just that I wish she didn't so obviously take her signals about what is feminine from the toy aisle at ToysRUs. Her decision that pink things are the only things she should own isn't based on her actually liking pink particularly, it is just that she has received the message that pink is associated with girls and so she buys into that wholly.
She doesn't accept gender stereotypes much in general, so it isn't as though I am worried about her sticking too close to expected norms. She is convinced that gender has no bearing on what things you can do, who you should have relationships with, or what you should want. Those lessons that come from both home and school seem to have sunk in. She, however, is utterly certain that pink is the only thing that matters to her and so she will select all of her possessions with that in mind.
Which, in this case, worked out okay. The set gives her all kinds of extra storage and room to work and I think it will be great for her. Sometimes you get the right thing even when your selection algorithm is ... questionable.