Today I ran to Pinkie Pie's school. It is about a twenty minute walk but I sprinted most of the way in order to make a delivery - a lunch that was discovered in the kitchen five minutes after Pinkie Pie had already gone to school. It was my fault as I had failed to put it in her backpack so off I ran to deliver it. Children looked at me askance as I ran down the street, everyone's gaze flickering to my bare feet and then back to my face again.
Because of course I was running in bare feet. Putting on socks would have taken time, and sandals are crap for running.
However, unbeknownst to me Pinkie Pie had taken an alternate route to school to meet a friend on the way and I got there far before she did. I wasn't terribly surprised to find that I got there first so I sat on a bench in front of the school and waited.
And waited.
During my wait the traffic on the street in front of me came to a stop and a man on a motorcycle began questioning me. He demanded to know why I was barefoot, and I answered that I am often barefoot. Then he demanded to know why I was at the school. He was clearly agitated, and at first I couldn't figure out what he was about, at least partly because our conversation was impeded by traffic noise and him wearing a helmet.
Soon though it became clear what his problem was - he was convinced I was some sort of pedophile. Because a male, near children? It couldn't be that I was delivering a lunch, or meeting a teacher, or making inquiries about my children. No, it must be that I am a violent criminal deviant.
Now, of course he would have given a pass to a well dressed man. Those types of people aren't to be suspected of things. But to break the cultural norm against wearing shoes, that means you must be twisted and evil. Perhaps even worse, you might be poor!
Before I had to make the choice between politely telling him the truth, giving him the finger, or telling him to bring the fucking noise, traffic began moving again and he decided that stopping the street completely to yell at a stranger on the sidewalk was not the thing to do and he sped off. He hesitated though, clearly angry that he didn't have the time to interrogate me properly for the suspicious activity of sitting on a public bench while dressed in a way he wasn't used to.
Finally Pinkie Pie showed up about fifteen minutes later. She was surprised to see me, but glad that the lunch had been delivered.
This kind of crap really grinds my gears. I hate that people feel entitled to a position of authority on the basis of another person's presumed poverty, and the sexist bullshit of thinking that a male couldn't possibly have anything legitimate to do with a school twists it into something even worse. I have encountered this before, particularly when I took Pinkie Pie to the park when she was small. When she was playing away from me and our relationship wasn't clear I would often get death stares from people who clearly concluded that a male near children must have nefarious purposes.
I can't help but wonder how these interactions would have gone if I wasn't large and strong. How bad might it be to add physical intimidation into the mix? I at least have the advantage that even if people feel entitled to be assholes to me, they don't try to push me around with brute force.
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