I noticed something odd recently about the people I met last summer. When I went to the World Boardgaming Championships in July I met a ton of new and interesting people and ended up being Facebook friends with 9 of them. Over the past year I have seen their posts on Facebook and discovered that 3 of the 9 are openly polyamorous. This is a surprisingly large number because only 5% or less of the population identifies this way and a great many of those are closeted and wouldn't discuss their relationships on Facebook for fear of retribution. Also some of the 6 rarely post to FB so I have little information and I haven't asked anyone directly about it.
I had a vague suspicion that one of the 3 poly people was poly at the time, but it was nothing more than a suspicion. The other two were a complete surprise - not that they did anything to suggest otherwise, but rather I received no information at all. I don't think this is a case of me having some sort of poly radar.
It makes me wonder about the correlations between various character traits. It makes lots of sense that the people I would like at a convention would have similar political leanings, we clearly have the same hobby, and I might also share values on things like religion. What I don't know is how much these other things correlate to being polyamorous. Are political lefties more likely to be poly? I would suspect so since left wing parties would tend to be a lot more accepting of their lifestyle but I certainly can't offer convincing proof of that. Left wing politics and polyamory are also both correlated to higher education, and I tend to like talking to people who have been in school forever, so that could be a factor also.
I would also expect a correlation with atheism or agnosticism because religions tend to push traditional family structures. Not all of them do, and not everywhere, but there is a trend for sure. People who refuse to listen to authority seem more likely to independently reject religious orthodoxy and mononormativity too.
Before I came out as poly I thought that there were hardly any polyamorous folks around. Now I know so many! I wonder how much of that is tapping into new parts of the web of humanity that lean that way, and how much is an actual shift in the number of people being poly and being open about it. The news is constantly putting out new articles about polyamory so people are more aware, and acceptance is increasing. Clearly both of those things are changing my social network, but I honestly have no idea how much of the changes I see I can attribute to each.
I don't develop an instant liking for anyone who is poly, that much is certain. I joined a bunch of Facebook groups over the past few months centered around polyamory and I left the great majority of them while clutching my ears and moaning "No, not like this." The only groups I stayed in were ones that were built around my social web, so I certainly gravitate towards people that share my values more generally.
Of course I must end with the note that this could quite easily just be entirely random. The sample size is obviously quite tiny so I can't draw sweeping conclusions.
Also if you happen to be a person I met at WBC and you are polyamorous feel free to send me a message because I am curious if there is more to this trend than I know! (I won't discuss names publicly, obviously, unless you want me to.)
I think there is a correlation between board game enthusiasts and polyamory. I think they can somehow be the same, like they are different hues but the same tone and a set of people identify with that tone.
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